My Survival Guide
Posted: Saturday, July 6, 2019 Filed under: Louis and Me! Comments Off on My Survival GuideIt’s been YEARS since I really posted anything here. Obviously, so much has gone on. There’s just no way I can write it all here! Recently, Louis and I have faced significant challenges.
7 months ago TODAY (December 6th, 2018), Louis slipped on black ice on the back deck and broke his femur. On New Year’s Eve, he returned home after surgery to place an internal plate and other hardware and a short stint in the rehab hospital. A short 18 days later, the hardware failed; and he landed himself back in the hospital. He suffered many complications… blood clots, kidney failure (resulting in an additional 75+ pounds of fluid on his body), wound infection, lymphedema, sepsis, rigors with high fever, and other complications. Nearly 5 months in the hospital put quite a strain on us – emotionally, physically, financially, relationally, and even spiritually.
As he laid in the hospital bed, struggling with high fevers, rigors, delusions, an extra 75-100lbs of fluid, confusion, and more, there were times that I wasn’t sure that Louis was ever going to make it out of the hospital. Later, several doctors confirmed that they too weren’t sure that he would make it home. Finally, he made the turn for the better and made great strides toward totally healing.
Now ~ 7 months later, Louis is facing another surgery on his knee. It appears that his 6 year old knee replacement, was also damaged in the fall. Lots of risks are associated with doing another surgery, but we are trust the Lord who carried us through these difficult times.
I am surprised at people’s response to watching us go through the last 7 months, commenting that we have inspired them on how to keep the faith during challenging times. So, I thought I would share some of my tips… my survival guide.
- Keeping your Faith in difficult situations starts way before the challenging times. It’s like exercise. You build your strength and faith during the ‘easy times’ and in the minor challenges. Not only do we review the Bible for stories of God’s love and faithfulness long ago, but we can also review our own lives. We have our own stories. My walk with the Lord has been more and more dear as years have passed. I clung to Jesus like a barnacle on a Rock during a storm.
- Louis and I live our lives pretty out loud. Not everyone does. We don’t hesitate to share when we are in ‘trouble’. Honestly – I can’t even hide it anymore. The few years leading up to this medical crisis has been extremely difficult >> another medical crisis when Louis went septic due to a hole in his intestine, a unexpected loss of job, head on collision and totaled car for me, and a year later – a mac truck rear-ended me and totaled a 2nd car. This totally ruined me. Tears flow for different reasons, or no reason at all.
- Friends and family – they have totally rocked it!!!! in so many ways. Don’t be afraid to ‘not have it all together’. It’s OK to fall apart. It’s OK not to “wash your face”. It’s OK to ask for help. It’s OK to accept the help. Yard work. House work. Meals. Rides to/from therapy. Rearrange furniture. Build a ramp. Let the dogs in/out. Run errands. Visit him at the hospital. It’s also ok to say – “No visits. we are tired.” Take care of YOU!!! Invite people into the crisis.
- One friend had the gift of availability. She was at the hospital – nearly every day. And definitely whenever I called, and especially in crisis mode. On his worse days – when I sat in the corner of his room just staring at him – not knowing what to do. She would say – you sit there and take care of you. I will take care of him. It was OK for me to watch her care for my husband. No guilt or shame that I was a bad wife. No time for that!
- Other friends, who also have the gift of availability, managed ministry efforts we were doing at the jail, recovery homes, etc. Something I just didn’t have to think about.
- This is warfare! Prayer is a MUST! I prayed for Louis, and was also intentional about praying for others I knew were in need. Seeking friends to Fast and Pray with me. Just as Aaron and Hur held Moses’ arms up during the battle, friend’s and family’s prayers kept us going.
- This tool helped me form prayers when I didn’t know how to pray. Get the app and favorite prayers – and pray!Red Prayer Book online>> http://www.mobileprayers.org/new/#/Prayer S IOS and Android app >> http://www.christianword.org/new/index.php
- Give Thanks!!! I looked for reasons to thank the Lord! It’s easy to get swallowed up in the dire or weary circumstances. When we focus on things that we are thankful for, things don’t seem as dire.
This song spoke volumes to me. “My weapon is a melody.”
Raise A Hallelujah – Bethel Music
The Story Behind the Song
Lyric video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2XtRuPfaAU&feature=youtu.be
- Praise and Worship!! We played worship music – all the time, well… OK… excect when March Madness was on!
- These were some of my Go-To songs while with Louis at the hospital.
- Kim Walker Smith Mix of Songs >> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ktsPuZvH-rQ&list=RDktsPuZvH-rQ
- And this was my go-to sloppy, messy cry song at home…. when things seems to be impossible and I felt unseen by the Father.
- You Know My Name – Tasha Cobbs >> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t7owFiihXgg
- Some friends brought guitars and played worship music (and some James Taylor – which might as well be worship music for Louis! HA!)
- These were some of my Go-To songs while with Louis at the hospital.
- Give – When I was the one who was always on the receiving end, it got hard to constantly accept. I looked for ways I could give. Giving goodies to the nurses and staff. We were there on Christmas, so we held a Christmas Eve Service for the others on the floor, family and staff members. One of the best memories I have. I found myself having conversations with other family members – praying with them, encouraging them, showing them the ropes.
- God’s Word – and read it often. We used these videos a lot. Left them playing when I left for home late every evening. I even played them at home when I laid my head down to sleep.
- 90+ Healing Bible Scriptures Looped and Soaking Music >> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1wfewVsIdf0
- Rest Be Still and Trust God >> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E77Qza2hu7Q
- Psalm Bible Scripture >> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IwCn12a-OwU
- Healing with Scriptures and Soaking >> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riL_UmSk_MM
- Soaking with Scriptures of Hope~ Robb Thompson >> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hSwTTpnRSw
- Communion – We took communion and took it often. I kept grape juice in the cabinet and used broken saltine crackers, graham crackers, or a roll off his dinner tray. One time, we almost used prune juice instead of grape. Whew… thankfully that wasn’t necessary. We invited guests, nurses and doctors to join us, and most times – they welcomed the opportunity. Pill cups came in so handy for serving grape juice!
- 7/6/2019 – Edit #1 – I can’t believe I forgot this part!!! A friend texted me this evening and it made me think about it! OK… so I have talked about the crying part. I have that down. But I also want to stress that it’s also OK to laugh and be silly. I know… I’m 56 years old…and I still like to be silly! I have this friend whose role was really important. She didn’t come to the hospital or provide a meal. But she provided me with laughter, silliness and distraction. I could call her and say let’s go and just laugh. Don’t ask me about Louis for the evening… or how I am… or anything deep. I just want to go and mentally get away from it all for a couple of hours. It was a little slice of heaven.
These are just some of the things we did to keep our eyes on Jesus. There were times we didn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel. Other times the light we saw felt like a freight train. The roller coaster ride continues. We still depend on friends and family. We are grateful for every role that every person has played and continues to play… showing up, praying, providing financial support, practical needs, emotional ones and more.
It’s not over yet. Earlier this week – a small group of us fasted and prayed together – storming the gates of heaven. A couple of days later – I was weepy, scared and felt that freight train barreling down. I find myself vacillating between… “Why? How much longer, Lord? We’re so done.” and “Wow – we got this. This is just a blip on the radar of eternity.” and “If only Louis was healed, we could….”
I am grateful for the Lord’s loving kindness, his presence, mercy and grace. I am grateful for friends and family who just keep showing up – pointing me to Jesus, when I glance away from him. He’s got the whole world in His hands… including me… and Louis.
If you want to partner with Louis and me during this time, this is how you can do so… https://lifetransformationchurch.org/partner-with-us/. Thanks for considering!!!
Thanks for reading! I had no idea it would be this long when I got started! Whew! You are champs for hanging in there!

This is Today…. Louis loves his dogs, Barton (black lab on the bed) and Moxie (chocolate lab sitting on the floor)
Mardi Bras VA 2018
Posted: Wednesday, December 20, 2017 Filed under: 2k12 1 CommentWe are super excited to announce some new features to Mardi Bras VA.
Many of you have hosted your own party – so this year, we will be offering you a Party Kit that will guide you in throwing your own Mardi Bras party! So, go ahead and set the date for the month of February 2018! More to come!
2015 – A Year in Review
Posted: Saturday, January 16, 2016 Filed under: 2k15 | Tags: 2015, life, new year, urban missionary Comments Off on 2015 – A Year in ReviewWhat a year! WOW! And what a year we have to look forward to. (More to come from that in an upcoming post!) Here’s a quick snap shot of the Year in the Life of Marti and Louis Williams and their work in Richmond and beyond! I’m sharing these things to give you insight to how we spend some of our time, but also in hopes that you will glean some ideas on how you, too, can join in God’s mission of loving your neighbor! I pray that you will share your ideas with us as well! Always looking for something new!! Enjoy!
January 2015 – The Usual New Years Day Open House
We start every year with a New Years Day Open House from 10a-2p where we flip pancakes and hang out with about 100 of our closest friends and neighbors. For some reason, I have not ONE picture! Dope! Anyway – it’s a great way to connect people from different parts of your life – work, home, and play.
February 2015 – Mardi Bras RVA
You filled the pod with bras, underwear, pads and tampons for women who are homeless or on a low/restricted income! and we got to meet Karla Redditt!!! Amazing effort by everyone involved! Y’ALL ROCK!!! Get ready for Mardi Bras RVA 2016! For more info >> click here!
March 2015 – Community Trustbuilding Fellowship
Throughout late 2014 and early 2015, I (Marti) joined about 30 other folks from across the Richmond area (as well as Texas, Washington DC, Ohio, Tidewater, Cameroon and the Netherlands) once a month for 5 months to participate in Initiatives of Change’s program called Community Trustbuilding Fellowship. As a diverse group of individuals, we came together as a community – learning about how to build trust building through facilitating dialogue through experiential learning. Great experience! Highly recommend it!
April 2015 – Easter!
We continued with our Annual Easter Egg Hunt and Joy Bombing – as we drove around Richmond bringing joy, a blessing or prayer and some candy! What a treat! For more pictures, click here >> EASTER 2015.
May 2015 – Church Facing Outward
Church, to me, is the body of Christ-followers…. not a place that people go on Sunday morning. We ARE the church. We go to gatherings or worship services. This is our how our church gathers on Tuesday evenings.
This is how we sometimes gather. This particular day we served a neighbor, together with his family and some other neighbors, to clean up an overgrown yard. You see, this neighbor happened to have a short stay in the county jail and was about to rack up major fines. So, we worked with the city on his behalf and got to work! Resulting in NO Fines and an opportunity to show our love in a practical way!
May 2015 – Memorial Day Community Cookout
This is an annual tradition for us! Bringing people together over food is one of our favorite things to do to build community! Go ahead and mark your calendar for this year’s gathering! Check pintrest for your favorite recipe! 🙂 More 2015 Pictures
June 2015 – Lemonade Stand
Weekly, we gather together to study God’s Word, build nurturing relationships and serve the community. Part of that is FOOD! We have dinner together. The kids of our church family wanted to cook dinner, but didn’t have money to do that. So, they held a lemonade stand and then worked to plan, budget, prepare, cook and clean up afterwards! One of the best meals EVER!!!
June 2015 – Hope Church Neighbor Lovin’ Day
Hope Church also brought a team to serve our community by picking up trash, pulling weeds, trimming brush and more! They were able to meet neighbors along the way and involve them in the work – building friendships and community across geographic barriers. See More Pictures
July 2015 – Annual Camp Splash – Backyard VBS
Again, in partnership with Hope Church, we held our 4th annual backyard VBS – Camp Splash! The kids FAVORITE gathering of the year! Grateful for all who serve and also provide meals each day! We couldn’t do this without your help! This year we capped at over 50 kids this year! See More Pictures – Day 1 Day 2 Day 3 Day 4 Day 5
August 2015 – Friends of John Marshall High School
A group of us went to John Marshall to help prepare the school for the first day – picking up trash, planting flowers, painting and more!
September 2015 – Back to School
THIS. DAY. What a blast! Tons of people made signs and brought chalk and granola bars. 3 of us went out before day light and decorated the kids’ yards, bus stops, and sidewalks. Then, we went from bus stop to bus stop handing out granola bars and hugs galore! What FUN! More Pictures!
September 2015 – UCI Cycle Race
We took the opportunity to do something fun – going to the bike race and turned it into a way to serve. Just hanging out on the street…cheering… and chatting it up with people from all over Richmond and the World! More Pictures!
September 2015 – West End Send Off
2 of our church family got hitched and moved to the West End. It is their intention to get to know and love their neighbors. So, some of us went to their home and served up ice cream, which allowed them the time to socialize and get to know their neighbors. We always appreciate it when people come along side of us to do that.
October 2015 – Front Yard Halloween Party
Each year, we move the corn hole, snacks and hot apple cider to the front yard and just hangout getting to know our neighbors. Also a simple way to gather together – sharing life with a neighbor and a friend. Another day I totally forgot to take a picture or 2.
November 2015 – Jobs for Life in the RCJC
Along with countless volunteers from numerous churches, we spent 2 days a week for 8 weeks in the Richmond City Justice Center (RCJC – aka the city jail), facilitating Jobs for Life (JfL). JfL is a biblically based job and life preparation training program that teaches how to obtain, maintain and thrive in a job. This was real gift to us. God showed us favor in so many ways! The class of 9 had a 100% graduation rate! We are starting 2 classes this month! Join us, will you?
- You can learn more about Jobs for Life in the RCJC here >>> JfL in RCJC.
- More pictures of the graduation >> JfL Graduation.
December 2015 – Christmastime
Nothing like gathering together to celebrate the birth of Christ and remember why He came. He came to serve, not to be served. He came to be light in the world. He can to die so that we may live. And he came to send us to do the same. That’s always a hard pill to swallow. Am I willing to die so that another may live? I mean really. I’m the one who gets ticked when my Dr. Pepper is flat. Sigh. God has much work to do in me.
This year Louis and I were reminded there are angels all around us – mighty sword-weilding ninja warriors who are protecting and fighting on our behalf. We learned (AGAIN!) that we fight not against flesh and blood, we fight against the spirits and principalities that seek to destroy, distract, and depress. I am learning (AGAIN!) that we don’t fight like others fight. We are to pray like none-other. I am learning (AGAIN!) to rely and depend upon God to fight my battles….as I kneel. (Yes – I saw War Room. Can you tell???)
This Christmas we went with a crew of people to Glorious Christmas Nights and the Christmas Parade and luncheon – thanks to the donations of some great friends and organizations! We are grateful for our friends from Restoration Church who joined us in Christmas Caroling! What a terrific experience for us all!
More Pictures:
Everyday Walk Around Lives – 2015, Looking at 2016
OK – I hesitated to post all of this, because I feared that it would look braggadocios. “Look at everything we did!” But really…. this is more like it right here. Let me share with you some real pictures of our everyday lives. It’s not all that exciting… trust me. NOTE: This year, we will be working on our own ‘soul care’. Taking time to nourish ourselves – mind, body and soul. Taking care of our marriage, our health, and our own relationships with Christ. Don’t hesitate to remind us that this is not a sprint, but a marathon.

Here we are on our anniversary – I think or was it Louis’s birthday? Not sure. But, it’s our normal, everyday life. Feel free to stop by if you can handle all the fun!

This is us eating NOT SO HEALTHY food. Nothing like a ice cream, apple, whipped cream with drizzles of caramel and cinnamon on a funnel cake. Sigh.
Lastly, we say thank you! Thanks to all of you who have supported us through our work through the non-profit – Into The Neighborhood, through our church – Life Transformation Church, and us directly as a ministry couple. We couldn’t do all this (and more) without your love, support, prayers and financial gifts. So, thank you from the bottom of our hearts. We ask for your on-going support, and there are a few ways that you can do that.
- To support the ministry of Miss Marti’s House and Into The Neighborhood, click here>> Support Into The Neighborhood
- To support the church/gospel planting efforts- Life Transformation Church, click here>> Support Support Life Transformation Church
- To save on the fees associated with online giving, you can always send a check to us at 2101 Barton Avenue, Richmond, VA 23222.
- To support us as a ministry couple, please contact us directly, and we will share with you how to best support.
Thanks again, neighbor.
Mardi Bras RVA 2016
Posted: Monday, January 4, 2016 Filed under: 2016 | Tags: homeless, Mardi Bras RVA, Mardi Gras, RVA, women Comments Off on Mardi Bras RVA 2016Mardi Bras RVA is Back!
How many pair of underwear do you have in your drawer right now? How many bras? When ‘that time of the month’ comes, do you wonder where you will obtain your supplies of pads or tampons? Sorry – if you are a guy and reading this, I dare you to ask your wife, daughter, sister, girlfriend, or mother these questions. I recently talked with a few women who used to be homeless and spent a lot of time on the street. They wondered about this every day… and every month. Supplies are NOT readily available for women who are homeless or on a low or restricted income. No – food stamps and other resources do NOT cover feminine protection. Then, I read this article…For Homeless Women, Getting Their Period Is One Of The Most Difficult Challenges which confirmed what I thought.
This is a problem that can be easily solved; and we decided to do something about it. So, here’s the deal. We are going to collect pads, tampons, new bras, new underwear and incontinence pads for women who are homeless or on low/restricted income! Keep reading! MARDI GRAS, where women bare their breasts for beads in New Orleans, is right around the corner. Instead of revealing our breasts, we are going to work at covering some! Join us for MARDI BRAS RVA 2016!!!
OPEN HOUSE DATES/TIMES:
Monday evening, 2/8 6p-8p
Tuesday morning, 2/9 10a-12noon
Jobs for Life-Richmond City Jail
Posted: Wednesday, December 30, 2015 Filed under: 2016, Jobs for Life - RCJC | Tags: Jobs, Jobs for Life, RCJC, RVA Comments Off on Jobs for Life-Richmond City JailCheck this out, friends! And learn how you can get involved with the Jobs for Life program for the men and women in the Richmond City Justice Center!
From Jail to Jobs!
Posted: Tuesday, October 20, 2015 Filed under: 2k15 | Tags: jails, joblessness, Jobs, Jobs for Life, Richmond, RVA Comments Off on From Jail to Jobs!Yesterday we entered into the City of Richmond Jail (RCJC) to provide a biblically based, Christ-centered job skills training program called Jobs for Life. We could NOT be MORE THRILLED!!!!!! God is on the move!!!! (Could I use any more capital letters or exclamation points???? or question marks???) There’s room for LOTS of help from LOTS of people! Keep reading for how YOU can help!!! The participants are Leaders in the REAL (Realizing Everyday Addictions in our Lives) Program.
Why are jobs important? Because it gives a person DIGNITY!
The church does a lot to help alleviate poverty…
But little do anything to focus on work. Imagine if…
We would giving people their dignity back, and they could buy their own food, clothing, and more! Imagine that. Communities, families, schools, and loves would be transformed! Yes. and Amen.
So, are you ready to be a part of this? It’s going to take time…and sacrifice. Obedience is the best sacrifice. So, pray about it. If you hear a yes and amen… Contact us below!
The Jobs for Life RCJC Team will include the following key support functions in its leadership team working in partnership with RCJC staff and residents/peer leaders. We are in need of Champions and Instructors! Classes are held every Monday 4:30-6:30 (4:15 arrival) and Thursday 5-6:45- (4:45 arrival).
- Co-Site/Champion Leader: Marti Williams
- Recruits, trains, directs and encourages a team of Champions (mentors); reviews student progress reports and coordinates post graduation Champion/Graduate support.
- WE WILL NEED 5-10 more Male Champions (Mentors) for our first class of 9 men. Champions help support and encourage the participants and help lead small group discussions.
- Recruits, trains, directs and encourages a team of Champions (mentors); reviews student progress reports and coordinates post graduation Champion/Graduate support.
- Co-Site/Instructor Leader: John Kirwan
- Teach and facilitate the Jobs for Life Curriculum in a caring, creative approach to set the stage for learning and to create an atmosphere for student interaction and participation; consistently role models what is expected of students; works with small Group Discussion Leaders and Champions to ensure that students are learning and applyingJfL principles; helps every student move closer toJfL Graduation.
- WE WILL NEED Male and Female Instructors and guest speakers. Instructors can commit to facilitating to 1-4 (or more!) classes. Faciliator’s guide is provided.
- Teach and facilitate the Jobs for Life Curriculum in a caring, creative approach to set the stage for learning and to create an atmosphere for student interaction and participation; consistently role models what is expected of students; works with small Group Discussion Leaders and Champions to ensure that students are learning and applyingJfL principles; helps every student move closer toJfL Graduation.
- Another way to help…Snacks
- If you ever have known someone in jail, you will know that food is very sparse and commissary is VERY expensive. One way we can help encourage the guys is to provide yummy snacks and drinks! Last night, they had soda for the first time in a very long time! And you can assist us in providing them! Snacks need to be finger foods (no utensils required); and Drinks need to be in 2 liter bottles – NO Cans!) Favorite snacks include: Pepsi, Baby Ruth (or any candy, for that matter!), Cheese Popcorn, Chocolate Chip Cookies, Nacho Cheese Doritos, Tortilla Chips and Queso, BBQ Chips, and all kinds of fruit!
Are you game to help someone go from Jail to a Job? If so, ask God about it. Then, contact us, if, and only if, you hear a Yes from Father God. Complete form below and submit it. We will be in touch soon!
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Side note:
One of our JfL participants, Terrence, will be seen on This Life With Lisa Ling on Wednesday, 10/21 at 9pm. And Aziz, who was recently released will be on Steve Harvey Show Tuesday, 10/20 at 4pm. Watch them both!
Pondering. Asking. Wondering.
Posted: Monday, June 29, 2015 Filed under: 2k15 | Tags: love, missional, questions, serve Comments Off on Pondering. Asking. Wondering.After a day of loving our community with Hope Church on Saturday, I am left asking myself and God a lot of questions the last few days. We had a lot of great conversations while we worked and processed afterwards. I love, love, love to ask the question “Why?”. Sometimes it can be quite a frustrating question to ask. When I know the WHY behind something, then (and sometimes ONLY THEN) I can grasp it. Sometimes we know the why in the moment. Sometimes we have to wait a while to learn why. Sometimes we have to wait until heaven to learn the answer to a question that we long to know. But, there’s nothing like knowing the WHY behind a situation right in the moment. If God truly cares about the details of my life, then these are questions I need to ask Him and myself regularly…
Why do I live where I live?
Why am I planted where I am planted?
Why do I work where I work?
Why am I married to the person I am married to?
For some it might be, Why do I go to the school that I go to? the tennis club, the whatever?
Regardless of the way we really want to answer those questions, if we are followers of Jesus, the honest answer SHOULD be – to glorify God. In the simplest of forms…keeping the ‘Main Thing’ the ‘Main Thing’, we live to Love God. Love others. And make disciples who make disciples. So, we don’t have to add anything extra to our calendars to fulfill this mission…God’s mission. It’s a matter of living on God’s mission in our everyday, walk-around lives….with intentionally. So, the questions, the prayers then become…
How do I love (and serve) God and love (and serve) others where I live?
How do I love (and serve) God and love (and serve) others where I go to school?
How do I love (and serve) God and love (and serve) others where I work?
How do I love (and serve) God and love (and serve) my spouse?
How do I love (and serve) those who look, act, and think different than I do?
How do I love (and serve) God and others in my everyday, walk around life?
Your life…my life… has purpose and meaning. So much more than going through the rote motions of getting up, eating breakfast and packing lunches, going to work or class, fixing dinner, playing tennis, taking your kids to a swim meet, walking the dog, fixing the brakes on the car, having a drink or ice cream with a friend, attending the PTA or civic association meeting, etc.
Imagine…
- we were doing all these things not to simply check the box …going through the motions, but to intentionally pour ourselves out – loving our neighbors, spouses, colleagues, teachers, employees, grocery clerks, friends, frenemies and enemies as ourselves.
- we went to bed at night with the attitude of ‘last man standing’ out-serving one another – not in a competitive way, but in a genuinely loving way only because that is what God called us to do. Jesus was sent to serve, not be served. Then, he sent us to do the same.
- we, as those who profess to be followers of Jesus, actually believed and acted like King Jesus was really on the throne…was really in control… and that all things really do work together for my good.
Imagine that.
That’s my wish…my desire… to live my life with intentionality, out-serving one another, believing and acting like Jesus is King of my life and He has my best interest in mind….and that all things (good, bad and otherwise) work together for my good. I may not understand the why…. but I will trust him.
How can I love (serve) you today?