REVISED JANUARY 28th:
Based on what I am hearing and already receiving in deliveries…I know.. exciting, right??? Deliveries already!!! You all rock!!!
NEED MORE PADS!! – both menstrual and incontinence pads and adult diapers.
NEED LESS TAMPONS!! We have plenty coming in!
NEED NEW UNDERWEAR MORE THAN NEW BRAS! And we really prefer NEW!
REVISED JANUARY 26:
INFORMATION HAS BEEN UPDATED TO BETTER REFLECT THE NEEDS OF THE COMMUNITY. PLEASE READ PURCHASING TIPS BELOW! WE ALSO ARE ADDING NEW RECIPIENTS OF THE PRODUCTS! THANKS TO THOSE YOU ARE ASSISTING WITH COLLECTIONS! I’VE HEARD OF HAIR SALONS, BANKS, CHURCHES, BIBLE STUDIES AND SMALL GROUPS, OFFICES, AND MORE! YOU GUYS ARE AH-MAZING! I’M OVERWHELMED!
FLYER TO POST IN YOUR PLACE OF WORK, CHURCH, ETC. >> Be sure to include your information on the bottom if you are collecting for others.
How many pair of underwear do you have in your drawer right now? How many bras? When ‘that time of the month’ comes, do you wonder where you will obtain your supplies of pads or tampons? Sorry – if you are a guy and reading this, I dare you to ask your wife, daughter, sister, girlfriend, or mother these questions. I recently talked with a few women who used to be homeless and spent a lot of time on the street. They wondered about this every day… and every month. Supplies are NOT readily available for women who are homeless or on a low or restricted income. No – food stamps and other resources do NOT cover feminine protection. Then, I read this article…For Homeless Women, Getting Their Period Is One Of The Most Difficult Challenges which confirmed what I thought. It’s a problem that can be easily solved and we decided to do something about it. So, here’s the deal. We are going to collect pads, tampons, new bras, new underwear and incontinence pads for women who are homeless or on low/restricted income! Keep reading!
MARDI GRAS, where women bare their breasts for beads in New Orleans, is right around the corner. Instead of revealing our breasts, we are going to work at covering some!
MARDI BRAS, where we are hosting 2 Open Houses to collect NEW bras, NEW underwear, pads, tampons, poise pads for homeless and low income families. It was also suggested to get menstrual cups, too, although we don’t need many of those!
2 OPEN HOUSE GATHERINGS: We are hosting 2 gatherings. This is a time for diverse people to come together to solve a common problem! Everyone is welcome to attend!
Monday Night 2/16 5-8pm
Tuesday Morning 2/17 10a-12noon
Miss Marti’s House, an urban ministry of Into The Neighborhood, Inc. 2101 Barton Avenue: Richmond, VA 23222
If you are on Facebook, join the FB Group >> https://www.facebook.com/groups/MardiBrasRVA/
If you can attend, please RSVP to the gathering you can attend here:
~ Monday Night, 2/16 5-8pm FB Invite – https://www.facebook.com/events/752391614844746/
~ Tuesday Morning, 2/17 10a-12noon FB Invite - https://www.facebook.com/events/300731026804393
If you able to bring a snack to share, that would be greatly appreciated, too!
We are collecting:
- Menstrual Pads and some tampons. Pads are needed more than tampons, please.
- Incontinence Pads and adult diapers.
- NEW Bras – of ALL sizes! Please remember larger sizes, too.
- NEW Women’s underwear – of ALL sizes! Please remember larger sizes, too.
I’ve learned the following from talking to some of our resources and friends!
- UPDATE: After speaking to partner organizations, we learned that there is a need for PADS of all kinds – for mentstruation and incontinence, as well as adult diapers!
- Remember larger sized women for bras and undies! We need more of them than the smaller sizes!!!
- Without going into a lot of details, menstrual cups are not that successful for homeless women in the RVA area (because there are not many sanitary places for them to be used and it becomes dangerous/unclean.) Although many of the prostitutes can still use them because they can still conduct business. We just won’t need a lot of them.
- Check back often! We will update as we learn more! More to come!
If you want to make a contribution, make your check to Into The Neighborhood and include a note that says Mardi Bras and we will use the funds to provide the necessary products. Mail it to:
Into The Neighborhood 2101 Barton Ave Richmond, VA 23222
- Tell your friends, clubs, small groups, pastors, hair salons, etc.
- Snacks and drinks for 2 gatherings.
- A graphic artist to make a flyer.
- People who can help pack and deliver to supporting organizations.
ORGANIZATIONS WE ARE SUPPORTING:
Check back often because we will update the list!
- Hilliard House
- Home Again/Espigh Shelter
- MCEF – Mechanicsville Churches Emergency Functions
- Alpha and Omega Church
- Faith Landmarks Church
- Life Transformation Church
SUPPORTING ORGANIZATIONS INFORMATION:
If you know of a place that could use these items, give them a call and let us know what they need, so that we can collect and distribute them. Send the following information to missmartishouse[at]me[dot]com.
- Organization Name
- Contact Name, Number, Email
- Women they support and how they support them.
- Supplies Needed
- Are you willing to attend one of the gatherings to share about the plight of homeless women in the Metro RVA area?
Thanks! Look forward to seeing you all!
It’s the time of year when our friends who sleep outside need a warm place to lay their heads. Please note the following press release that came out earlier today and make notes for the future! Sorry that I didn’t read and post it sooner. PLEASE NOTE IN BOLD AND ITALICS BELOW… In order to sleep in the Cold Weather Overflow Shelter, you must have a referral. Note: There are NO services (that I know of…) on the weekends! Sigh.
City’s Day Warming Site Open ~~~ Saturday, December 13 Through Monday, December 15
The City’s Cold Weather Day Warming site will open on Saturday, December 13, Sunday, December 14, and Monday, December 15 from 6:30 a.m. to noon.
- Saturday and Monday – shelter guests should enter through the doors at 9th and Clay streets, closest to the court building.
- Sunday – City’s Department of Social Services Marshall Plaza location, 900 East Marshall Street.
City’s Cold Weather Overflow Shelter (overnight) Open ~~~ December 12 through December 14
The City’s Cold Weather Overflow Shelter will open tonight, December 12, Saturday, December 13 and Sunday, December 14 as overnight temperatures are forecast to remain at or below 40 degrees during this period.
The overflow shelter is located in the City’s Public Safety Building at 505 North 9th Street. The shelter entrance is the second entrance on the 9th Street side of the building closest to Leigh Street. The shelter opens at 7 p.m. and closes the following morning at 6 a.m. Shelter registration will be held from 7 p.m. to 9 p.m. Food will not be provided and pets are not allowed.
Residents in need of overnight shelter are asked to report to Commonwealth Catholic Charities Homeless Point of Entry by 5 p.m. today for a comprehensive intake and referral to the appropriate shelter. Commonwealth Catholic Charities Homeless Point of Entry is located at 511 West Grace Street. A referral to the Cold Weather Overflow Shelter will be provided to individuals who are not eligible for an existing shelter or if all available beds have been filled.
Individuals seeking access to the Overflow Shelter must have a referral.
Other Cold Weather Notes:
The City’s Department of Social Services provides emergency assistance with gas and electric disconnection notices for residents who qualify. Residents may also call the Fuel Line at (804) 646-7046.
The elderly or residents with disabilities should contact Senior Connections for assistance at (804) 343-3000, Monday through Friday; 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
YES! Honestly this is one of the best feelings…BEST EVER…. napping in the arms of the one who loves you… the one you love…. the one you fight with… the one you make up with… the one that you say “I Do” to… for better or worse… in sickness and in health… in rich and in poor… in JOY and sorrow… to love and cherish… in the good, the bad, the ugly… awake and asleep. :)
Grateful for my friend, Nicole, who caught this shot on Sunday after worshiping, eating, walking in the woods, and zip lining with friends. Nothing like a Cowboys/Redskins game to put you right to sleep. Sigh. zzzzZZZZZZ
Happy Birthday, today, to the Other Half of My Pair. To many more years of napping together! Love you, babe!
It’s been while since I have written. Living life sometimes just gets in the way of writing. And writing sometimes gets in the way of living life. Life won out over writing. Many of you have asked why I’ve been radio silent lately. This will give you some insight into what we have been up to and why it’s been a bit quiet. So…here’s what’s been happening since I really spent some time putting words to paper.
I’m overwhelmed by the support of our ministry since we gathered together for Jen Hatmaker in mid-August. She was a true delight to spend time with and was a welcomed guest in our home. Thanks to all of you who have reached out and shared your experiences, thots and life changes since we heard from Jen, as well as our other friends…
- April Salvant – from New Hope Haiti Mission
- David Bailey (and the rockin’ worship band!!) from Arrabon and Making a Melody.
- Karen Rios – from The Dance Candle
- Marci and Matt Foote – from the West End of Richmond
We are so thankful for the planning team and all the volunteers who supported the effort! What a blessing!
Just as we were recovering from the weekend, Louis’s mom had several significant health issues that basically forced us to move her to Richmond (RVA) from Charlotte, NC. We are so grateful for her church family that have helped out over the years, but especially with her transition to RVA. 3 months later, we are attempting to settle into a rhythm again. Life hasn’t been easy for Mama Louise (Mama L, for short). In 3 months, she’s had a broken elbow, countless doctor’s appointments, 2 back surgeries with a total of 10 days in the hospital, multiple moves, and significant number of other changes including multiple diagnoses. We are soo glad that she was open to moving here where we can be closer to her and help provide for her care. I’m so grateful for the many friends (here and in Charlotte) who have come along side us as we continued to ‘do life’ in Southern Barton Heights and love on Mama L. I don’t know what we would have done without them. Seriously.
So, in a life where we intentionally live ‘on mission’ in our community, often times our family becomes our “mission”….our priority. This was much like last year (2013), when Louis had 3 joint replacements and I had an emergency gall bladder removal. We had to slow down significantly. Although it can be a difficult time for Mama L and for us, it is a blessing to serve her and those who take such good care of her.
We were thrilled to partner with Endorphin Fitness, who came out to hold a Bike Repair Clinic. We fixed up over 20 bikes in just 2 short hours. Not only that, we set up a circuit to got exercising as well. What a gift to the community! Truly. So thankful for our friends from Hope Church who continue to join us in a variety of ways!
We celebrated Louis’s 24 Years of Ministry as an Ordained Minster of the Gospel with food and fellowship with a side of prayer around the fire pit. We welcomed friends and stories from the past and present! Thanks to the many friends who showed up and made this possible! Mama L even made it to the celebration!
On Tuesdays at 4pm, we now host a kids club called H.I.S. Kids at Miss Marti’s House.
H = Hope Where we share the Hope in Jesus Christ.
I = Inspire Where we Inspire and Encourage the Kids in all they do – at home, at school in the present and the future.
S = Serve Where we look for opportunities to Serve our neighbors.
At our first meeting, they made a list of rules to live by…
And, we continue to meet together as a micro-expression of a missional church – Life Transformation Church – every Tuesday evening…as we fellowship together, study God’s Word together, pray together, and do life together. I love this group of friends and spiritual family!
Recently, new friends donated a minivan to our ministry! This is AWESOME news! It needs a little basic maintenance (a front end alignment and 2 new tires pretty soon), insurance, and other basic items before we can officially use it. But, we are thrilled to have an opportunity to provide tangible services to the community in the near future. We are calling this ministry – “Holy Rollers”, where we will be able to provide transportation to an affordable grocery store on a regular basis, doctors’ appointments, and jobs! We are in the very early stages of developing the plan with our community, and we are SUPER EXCITED!!! More to come!
We have some upcoming community building times coming up. Feel free to join us!
**Tuesday, 12/2 6p
Glorious Christmas Nights Christmas Program at WEAG (Limited tickets available and are required to attend)
**Wednesday, 12/17 evening
Christmas Caroling with Restoration Church Youth
**Saturday, 12/20 10a-12noon
Happy Birthday, Jesus Christmas Party for Children of ALL ages!
**Thursday, 1/1/2015 10a-2p
Annual New Years Day Open House and Pancake Brunch
Thanks for your continued support and partnership! We are full of THANKS for your GIVING! Your gifts and donations help us with these and other upcoming ministries we have planned in 2015!
Louis and I have been a bit tied up lately. 6 weeks ago we moved his mama from Charlotte to RVA. Our time has been a bit busy caring for and loving on her. What a blessing to have her close by where we can manage her care and love on her as much as possible!
Now, we are beginning to achieve some balance in our schedule and want to share our upcoming gatherings! We are super excited!!! All events are held at 2101 Barton Avenue, Richmond, VA 23222 unless noted otherwise.
Save the Dates!
4p HIS Kids Club (Hope! Inspire! Service!) for elementary age children. Middle School youth can assist with planning.
6:30p Life Transformation Church – a Missional Micro-Expression of the Church where we eat a meal, study the Word, pray, serve and ‘do life’ together.
Friday, 10/31 4p-8p Annual Halloween Party in the Front Yard!
Saturday, 11/1 12n-2p First Bike Repair Clinic in the Front Yard! Grateful for our friends at Endorphin Fitness for partnering with us! (Raindate 11/8 12noon – 2pm)
Tuesday, 12/2 6p Glorious Christmas Nights Christmas Program at West End Assembly of God (ticket required!)
Saturday, 12/20 10a-12n Happy Birthday, Jesus Christmas Party for Children of ALL ages!
Thursday, 1/1/2015 10a-2p Annual New Years Day Open House and Pancake Brunch
Look forward to seeing you and yours!
10 Things to Think About Before You Give in the Amazing Raise 2014 (or anywhere else for that matter!)Posted: Friday, August 22, 2014
UPDATE: This was a really hard and painful post to write. I struggled with whether to write it or not, because I don’t have it all figured out. But, as I talked to some experienced nonprofit folks and community leaders, I felt compelled. And…I just know I/we need to think and pray more before we invest God’s money!
Amazing Raise season has arrived! In response to last year’s Raise, I wrote To Give…or Not to Give. Don’t get me wrong…I LOVE the energy around the Amazing Raise and have dear friends and organizations that I believe in and give to. In fact, giving is good for us. According to the book The Paradox of Generosity: Giving We Receive, Grasping We Lose by Smith and Davidson,
“More generous people are happier, suffer fewer illnesses and injuries, live with a greater sense of purpose, and experience less depression.” .
So, we benefit when we give. However, who we give to matters to others. So I implore you to think about…pray about…WHO you give to. I live in and love a community that receives a lot of ministry and non-profit focus. I’ve seen some good, some bad and some really ugly over the years. So, allow me to talk from the street level after living in and loving the inner city for the last 9 years. It behooves us all to do our homework. Please.
A group of us have bounced some ideas around…and came up with this list of 10 things to think about before giving or volunteering.
1st – PRAY a listening prayer. Ask God to speak to you, to show you where to invest HIS money. We are called to be good stewards of the money God has given us. He’s counting on us to make WISE decisions regarding who we support with our time, talent, resources and finances.
2nd – Don’t believe everything you read or hear! Do your research!
- Talk to the community. It’s important to get first hand information from the folks in the community – not just the ones being ‘supported’ by the organization.
- Talk to people who used to work for the organization. Why did they leave? What did they see on the inside?
- Review the 990s. Do the numbers add up? Is there a return on the investment?
- Ask questions.
- Look for ways that folks may be privately benefiting from the work being done. They may not get salaries, but there are other ways to benefit… using ‘the ends justify the means’.
- Talk with current and past partners. What does that partnership look like? Why are they not in partnership anymore?
- Talk with past recipients of their services, if you can. Where is the ‘poster child’ from a year or 2 ago that is no longer around?
3rd – Track what’s happening. Is the nonprofit sustainable? or do they jump from one project to another? to one part of town to another? Are they committed to their mission…or are the suffering from mission bleed…and find themselves all over the place..shifting with the tide? Pulling out before the job has done or pulling out too soon…pulling out just as trust is being built? Signs of going from one project to another and never fully completing what they started is a sign they are either chasing money and/or not building a sustainability plan after receiving a one-time grant. In addition, they just might be unfocused, suffer from ADD or just good ole impatience. This work takes time. CCDA folks say that you need to commit to at least 15 years in order to make a true difference. That’s a really, really long time. Sometimes it takes 5+ years just to gain trust.
4th – Stories are really compelling tool. But, those stories might NOT be all true…sins of omission and sins of commission. (See #1) Are they taking creative liberties to sell the ‘story”? Ask for data to back up those stories. Think about the pictures of poor starving children and abused dogs, etc. which are meant to tug on your heart strings. And we JUMP to give. We see the ‘poor inner-city child with too small clothes’ who needs a bed, a home, clothing, etc. We want to fix it…now.
5th – Are the community and the residents treated with respect and dignity? Are they being done TO? BAD! Are they being done WITH? GOOD! Are the residents/people/children being exploited just to raise funds? After speaking to one longtime community leader yesterday – this exploitation is considered particularly heinous. The ‘friend’ can’t say ‘No’ to having their picture taken because they are too beholden to the organization, and their livelihood, housing, and resources might depend on it. The community leader said that some may not know their pictures are being used to market the organizations, and they are being told what to say and how to say it…often written for them. YIKES!
6th – Organizations that are 5+ years or older should be transferring some organizational leadership to the indigenous people or the people they serve, especially if they focus on leadership development. Are they employing people from the community by now? Are community members consulted with, listened to, and heard before something is implemented?
7th – Look for meaningful results for sustainable change. Are there wrap-around services to go with the transitional housing for the homeless? How are they partnering with the larger movement within the city/county? Are there strong partnerships with other non-profits or churches in the geographical area or same focus (homelessness, sex-traffiking, education/tutoring, etc.)?
8th – If it is a faith-based organization, does it align with your theology? If not, then is it close enough for you?
9th – Before you give significantly or promote… volunteer with them for a length of time. Get to know the organization from the inside. Ask the hard questions from the inside. Observe. Listen.
10th – Asks yourself…Is the work for the common good of the community? Is there harm being done? This is a hard one. Hard to get to the root of it. Because it may look good and feel good, but after asking yourselves all these questions, you may learn that it is in fact doing more harm then good. Some ‘good’ work is actually a drain on the community, because work is done in a silo, and the whole community…or impacts on the whole community, are not considered. Partnering with the other nonprofits, the city, the community, etc. is a necessity.
Remember…It’s not about making us – the giver – feel good because we gave, although that’s an addictive feeling. It’s about implementing sustainable transformation, not enabling. Read about the differences between Mercy, Betterment and Development work in last year’s post >>> To Give…or Not to Give.
I know I missed some. I am still learning. What do YOU use to determine where to give and how to give and serve?
If you want to discuss more about any of these or others, happy to chat about it. Just contact us!